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Thank you for the Emails in response to yesterday's podcast, they were all so helpful. Tammy's life in particular experience is right in line with scripture. We also talk about the one kid's book that happens to be in this house we're renting, "The Bad Seed".
Good morning. Welcome to Morning Motivation, brought to you by the Public Square App, Patriot Gold Group. Thanks so much for the emails yesterday, the advice, words of encouragement from yesterday's podcast about having a strong-willed child. Tammy wrote me. She says, my husband and I have one strong-willed child out of our four. She's 10 years old now and she is way easier to parent than when she was three to seven. Those years were very hard on her and us. So things that helped reading Dr. Dobson's The Strong-Willed Child. It's a great book that interviews adult strong-willed kids and their parents to get behind what they were thinking growing up. One of my biggest takeaways, The Strong-Willed Child sees rules as challenges to be broken. And the strong-willed child, sorry, I laugh because I'm like, Oh, Jack's so difficult to parent. And when I see something like that, I'm like, that's me. And the strong willed child is testing you daily to see if you are strong enough to keep them on the right path. They don't want to be led by a weakling. That's so good. The strong willed child sees rules as challenges to be broken and the strong willed child is testing you daily to see if you're strong enough to keep them on the right path. They don't want to be led by a weakling. Also don't give up. It may seem like you aren't getting through to them with the discipline and the corrections and rules, but you are. Like you said, don't break their spirit. Don't put out their fire. But you do need to bend their will to yours and more importantly to God's will, absolutely. She says, we felt like nothing was working when she was five, six, and seven. She would yell at us and tell me no and do things I directly told her not to do. Things started getting easier at seven, eight, and nine. She's a strong-willed, she's still strong-willed, but is a quiet and determined rather than disobedient and belligerent. She's the most creative of all of our kids. And when she sets her mind to something, she will get it done. That's the benefit. Well done, Tammy. Hang in there, keep praying. That's the benefit of being a strong-willed person. You will not give up. Hang in there, keep praying. Ask your friends who have strong-willed kids to give you advice and to encourage you. Those things help us. Hope this helps. Thank you for encouraging and inspiring me each weekday morning, Tammy. That's wonderful, Tammy, thank you. Thank you also, Anne and everyone else who wrote me a note. Anne's email was about patience, not losing it in the moment. Instead, she would go for a drive with her boy and stay quiet. Wait for him to talk first. It wouldn't take long, but not losing your temper. That's just everything. I was in a hotel gift shop recently and there was a little book about golf quotes. I didn't even play golf, but I was curious, so I opened it up. And I found this quote from Arnold Haltane. I don't know, are there any golfers here? Is that a, let me look that name up. Is it like a famous golfer that I should know about? I don't know.
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I don't know. And some things popped up, but I don't know. Arnold Haltane, this is from 1910. He said, don't lose your temper about anything, anything whatsoever. If you lose your temper, you lose everything. Self-control, self-respect, judgment, equanimity, I had to look it up, mental calmness and composure, decency of language, and of course, the whole, and probably the game. Yeah, that's right. In this case the game isn't golf, the game is raising your children and I don't want to lose it. So we're in this house we're renting and there is a kids book here. Jack actually found it, he read it first, he was telling us about it in the car, we're like well what's this book? So we read it as a family that night, it's called The Bad Seed. I recommend it if you can read it with them because there's some things in there that are a bit off that need some parental mentoring. But it's a great way to start discussion. So it's about this sunflower seed that's a bad seed. He has some traumatic things happen to him. And he's a bad seed. He makes bad decisions. He goes to the library and it says, quiet please, and he plays his drums and all the other seeds are bothered by him. Jack thought that was very funny. And he just makes bad choices, but then one day he decides to make good choices, and his life turns around. And it's great, it's like, hey kids, look how unhappy he is when he's making bad choices, and look how he's just not being thoughtful of anyone. And there's a list of all the things he does as a bad seed. He's got a bad attitude. But now look how happy he is. He's making good choices. There's a few moments that need some parental help. Like he says he doesn't all the time make good choices. Like he only holds the door open for people sometimes.
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So it's just a little bit of a nudge.
Like, Oh, like, no kids. Like we hold the door open all the time, but I get what they're trying to do. Right. It can be a process to change your ways. Sure. But this is nothing that a parent can't read through with their kids. So it was like perfect. This book was just a perfect timing. Why is this one kid's book in this house? There's no other kid's book here. This is the only kid's book. And we're glad it is. I read this from Focus on the Family. The Bible tells us, for the moment, all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness. Isn't that what Tammy was saying? That her daughter now is quiet and determined. Yeah, that's it. That's the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12.11. We must discipline and train our strong-willed children so that they can grow into the fullness of what God has for them. I read a book of that, Dobson book, that Tammy was talking about. I wanna talk a little bit about it tomorrow. But in the meantime, thank you for your help. If you have any more advice that has popped in your head about how to raise strong-willed kids, I'm thirsty for it. SlaterRadio at gmail.com, MikeSlater.locals.com as well. And if you're past this phase, the takeaway here, this phase of parenting, the takeaway can be that quote about anger. If you lose your temper, If you lose your temper, you lose everything.