Some of the finest people I know are dealing with unbearable loss right now. I don't know what grieving looks like in this magnitude. Ecclesiastes 7:2 is where I turned this morning. And I love this line form Spurgeon, "The heart is made better by sorrow because it is made more free from earth."
Welcome to Politics by Faith brought to you by the Patriot Gold Group. Maybe an aside from politics here, this does have a political connection to it, but I don't want to share the details of that yet for fear of speaking out of turn. Some of the greatest people I've ever known. Just the countryest of country people in all the best ways imaginable. I'm not exaggerating if an alien came from outer space and said show me the quintessential American family. As country as can be. The country's people ever. The dad had CBCS tattooed across his back in huge letters. Country boy can't survive. They're the kindest, most generous, loving, adventuresome, live life to the fullest people
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I've ever met. I cannot sing their praises enough and there was a period in my life where I needed them and they were for many years and they were just integral in it and their son just passed away. He was maybe 20 and I don't want to share the details it feels gossipy at this point but just know that it was unjust. This is how life and politics goes when you're going into politics and who's Kamala's VP pick and then poof. Something like this just slams you in the face. It's not my kids, imagine how they feel. It's like oh, nothing else matters I don't know how you get through this I don't know how you get through the death of a child I do not know at all I just you know we had gratitude Monday
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segment yesterday someone just sent me an email I'll give you the very short of it he crafted this email this is a crafted email is a story that he beautifully told. It started off with, did you get those bad kids yet? I'm on my way to get those horrible children. He says, of course, my wife and I are joking when we say this, but it's a common pair of phrases between us as we head to work to grab our kids.
And his wife is pregnant with their fifth kid. And they, let me read this, today, like every other day with our four young kids, it started off in chaos. And then they went to the 20-week test. When the technician began the ultrasound, I found it odd that our baby wasn't active like he'd been during the previous ultrasounds.
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The tech only did three of what would have been dozens of measurements before she told us he was small and excused herself from the room. After a good amount of time, we were asked to go to a different department to speak with a doctor. When the doctor came into the room, you could have heard a pin drop. She informed us that our son's heart was not beating.
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Sometime between our last checkup five weeks ago and today his heart stopped. My wife broke down. As a man and as a husband I never felt more empty, frustrated, and useless as I did at that moment. Ashton was scheduled to be removed for later in that afternoon. While I was sitting next to my wife in the waiting room a conversation from the movie Lucky Number Slevin came into my head. It's between Slevin and the rabbi after
Slevin refers to himself as unlucky and he sent over the text. I found the clip
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here. Well if I must. Do you know for what reason you've been brought here?
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For starters I'm unlucky. You're lucky and nothing more than a frame of
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reference for the lucky Mr. Fisher. You are unlucky so that I may know that I am not. Unfortunately, the lucky never realize they are lucky until it's too late. Take yourself for instance. Yesterday you were better off than you are today, but it took today for you to realize it. But, today has arrived, and it's too late. You see? People are never happy with what they have.
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They always want what they had, what someone else has.
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I said yesterday was a normal day for us. Today was one of the worst days of my life. And it took today for me to realize just how absolutely amazing my horrible children are. Life is such a blessing and I'm truly grateful for the life God has blessed me with. We just got home about an hour or so ago. My wife is safe and time will heal our heartbreak.
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We both made the comment on the way home that we can't wait to get back to our kids. I may not get to meet Ashton James in the next life, but I know where he is. I know that he's safe, yes, and I look forward to seeing him in the next. This is a roundabout way of getting to the gratitude aspect of my email, but I'm grateful that tragedy and loss is not the end, but simply a different route through life. The end for me is known, Evan.
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It's the path that will vary. How about that? So sorry you're going through that Brian. It's pretty amazing that you landed so quickly on that conclusion and there'll be more time of grief of course but that's you got to that point pretty quick. I mean he's for the kids so this is a great opportunity to show them how to grieve well, too. But you got to that working conclusion pretty quickly.
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Maybe there's difference,
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there's gotta be some difference, right,
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between even a 20-week pregnancy loss to a 20-year-old loss. This is the strongest, back to my friends, it's the strongest family I know. Grieving is different for everyone.
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I pray they can one day make it to something that looks like that from that email I got from Brian. But what do I know? I don't know what's right.
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I don't know. I do know. It's one thing I do know.
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I know that a moment like this, a tragedy like this, can either make someone run away from God or run to God. That I know. Second Chronicles 3.11. So the Lord brought against them the military commanders of the king of Assyria who captured Manasseh, put a hook in his nose, bound him with bronze shackles, and took him to Babylon.
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And in his distress Manasseh ran away from God, nope, sought the favor of the Lord his God and earnestly humbled himself before God, before the God of his fathers. And when he prayed to him, the Lord received his plea and heard his petition. Manasseh ran to God. And I pray that these friends of mine will run to God too. I think they will. I think they will. Two scriptures come to mind. Let me start with this one. Ecclesiastes 7.2 says,
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It is better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting. For this is the end of all mankind, and the living will lay it to heart. That's something. I read a Spurgeon sermon about this, try to get a better understanding of this line. It's better to go to the house of mourning than to go to the house of feasting. No one would say that. That's why the Bible is so wonderful.
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It's the opposite of what everyone would say. Everyone in the world would say, well, of course you're going to go to the house of feasting. You're going to go to the house of happiness, the house of joy. And the Bible says, no, no, no, better to go to the house of mourning. Why?
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Well, if you go to the house of feasting, you'll never be alone. There's no question about that. But eventually you'll look around at the company. And the company's not good. Spurgeon says, I would rather go to the house of mourning with the children of God. I would rather be chained in a dungeon, wrist to wrist with a Christian, than I would live
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forever with the wicked in the sunshine of happiness. The company I meet makes me suspect that it is true that the house of mourning is better than the house of feasting." And then he says, all right, well, let's head over to the house of mourning. Let's see what it's like over there. He says, there it is, a gloomy place, a steep rock covered with moss, and we must go there.
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The great fisher, Destiny, stands there, and with hook in each man's flesh, he drags us on where he pleases. There's an iron chain that links us all together and binds us in the bonds of everlasting destiny. And go we must where the chain drags us. We cannot resist and we must go to the houses of mourning. Sorry, I'm thinking of my friends, happiest people I've ever met.
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It's unbelievable. All the memories I've had, just happy, huge, huge, constant smile and laughing all the time, all the time. Joy and suffering. I'll share more another day when I know more. But just joy and suffering in their life.
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That I've known. Nothing like this. Suffering. But...
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Anyways, Spurgeon says,
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I say that some of you may be suffering the loss of your friend. And you may be saying, no others have suffered as I have. Say not so. There have been others who have been quite as sorely bereaved as you have been. The path of sorrow has been well trodden. Princes have been there. Nobles have been there.
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Earls and dukes have jostled in the crowd with the poor man who had nothing to lose but one child and his yet unburied wife." Spurgeon says, and Solomon says in Ecclesiastes, what Spurgeon says, that it is good for the soul to go to the house of mourning every single day, one place in particular, in the garden of Gethsemane, where the mighty Jesus, the Son of God, bent his knees in agony and wrestled with his Father. He said to his disciples, My soul is exceedingly sorrowful unto death, and as sweat as it were
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great drops of blood falling down to the ground. It is better to go to Gethsemane, the house of mourning, than any place of feasting in the world. We know that the Egyptians at every feast had a skeleton at the end of the table, and they were wise men if they thought rightly of it. It is great wisdom to make death our everyday companion.
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Wow.
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The horses that they use in war are at first very much afraid of the smoke and the noise, but I'm told that they take those horses into the barracks yard first and fire into their faces with powder until they're so used to it that they will easily go into the battle. I said, well, how about that for an imagery? More like a scared, skittish horse, naturally. But then you get, you taste, you taste this pain
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and you become stronger. That's that imagery, right? But check this back to Ecclesiastes. So again, Ecclesiastes 7-2, it's better to go to the house of mourning than to the house of feasting.
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For this is the end of all mankind, like everyone will die, and the living will lay it to heart. What does that mean? The living will lay it to heart. Meaning, even if you're alive and you go to the house of mourning, good things happen
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there. Why? If you go to the house of feasting, there is nothing there to lay to heart. It's all froth. It's lighter than vanity. It's a bubble.
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Touch it and it vanishes. But in the house of mourning, there is something solemn, which will bear to be touched and still endure. It's real. There's a place to put your heart. You can lay your heart out on something that is real and not something that is fake. Like in the house of feasting. I'll end with this. It is positively a good thing for us to be sad.
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When the strings that bind heart to earth are cut. Oh, this is so good. When the strings that bind heart to earth are cut, then we can soar. Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, think of the loss of the sun. That is a string that is binding your heart to the earth. When that string is cut, then we can soar.
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We are chained to earth, but there is a water in these eyes, which, like aqua fortis, nitric acid, can eat away the iron and set us free. The heart is made better by sorrow, because it is made more free from earth. It is made better by sorrow again, because it becomes more sensitive, more impressed with the lessons of God's word.
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We can shut our ears to the voice of God in mirth, happiness, but in the house of mourning we can hear every whisper. The noise of the song does drown the still small voice of God, but in the house of mourning you can hear every footfall, even the voice of time, the ticking of the clock, which says now, now, now.
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Wow. You never know when. Do you have any other advice during grief? My email is slaterradio at gmail.com. What would your advice be to this family? Again, for now, without the details, I can just say it was an unjust loss. It was an unjust loss. What's your advice? SlaterRadio at gmail.com is my email. I can just say it was an unjust loss. It was an unjust loss. What's your advice? SlaterRadio at gmail.com is my email. MikeSlater.Locals.com is the website and the transcript is there and it's commercial free.